“Doubt and defeat have no place in the sacred sanctuary of your heart.”
Synopsis from Goodreads: The enemy wants us to feel rejected . . . left out, lonely, and less than. When we allow him to speak lies through our rejection, he pickpockets our purpose. Cripples our courage. Dismantles our dreams. And blinds us to the beauty of Christ’s powerful love. In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences with rejection—from the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her father to the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over. With biblical depth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa helps readers: Release the desire to fall apart or control the actions of others by embracing God-honoring ways to process their hurt; Know exactly what to pray for the next ten days to steady their soul and restore their confidence; Overcome the two core fears that feed our insecurities by understanding the secret of belonging; Stop feeling left out and start believing that “set apart” does not mean “set aside.” End the cycle of perceived rejection by refusing to turn a small incident into a full blown issue.
Feelings: Sometimes I struggle with non-fiction. It’s hard for me to get into the flow or get used to the writer’s tone. And I start longing for a good plot. Give me a conflict and falling action any day. But then other times I need words of encouragement or a perspective shift. That’s where non-fiction comes in to play. Christian non-fiction is usually what I reach for when I’m in this mood and I’d heard great things about Lysa’s Uninvited.
There are a lot of things that Lysa does well in this book. Each chapter is formatted in a similar way – starting a story or anecdote, digging into scripture, closing the story with hope and practical application – making her ideas easy to track with. Her writing voice is so inviting and she gets downright vulnerable in her honesty, so I trusted every word she said. I felt like she understood my struggles. This trusting voice also led to a lot of affirmations. She reminded me that my life and my voice are beautiful and that I was created to be pursued and for pursuit. There’s a lot of hope in this book, friends.
Takeaways: I highlighted SO MANY things from this book. One of my greatest takeaways, though, where the prayers she lists out. For the times in our life that feel in-between, Lysa shares 10 different prayers we can use and apply in our lives. I copied all of them down in the notes app of my phone so I can keep them close by and at the ready. She also provides questions to ask when we get to these points and to difficult moments in any relationship. I found these to be really practical and relevant.
This book is about the aftermath of rejection and how we cope with it. How do we approach life after feeling tossed into a pit? Lysa reminds us that rejection isn’t the end, the destination. It can be a delay or a pitstop, but it’s never the end of the course. We are destined for something so much greater. There’s a lot we can learn from these seasons and she gives us some things to remember during these times.
Final thoughts: I think this is a great read. Lysa’s ideas and voice are easy to follow, poignant, and gritty. She doesn’t dumb things down or scold – nothing like that. Her writing, instead, is more like a hug mixed with some hard truths. As a side note, I wouldn’t recommend the audiobook necessarily. I found it to be done in a cheesy, kind of annoying way. I started with the audio, but ultimately switched to the ebook version…also because I wanted to be able to highlight and make notes!
Pick this up if you liked:
Looking for Lovely by Annie F. Downs
The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst
Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst
Goodreads rating: 4.35/5
Amazon.com rating: 4.8/5
My rating: 4.5/5
Happy reading! – Caitlyn